Partners in Parenting
I have seen it many times before, heck I have even been guilty of it. It is probably the most common parenting mistake we mothers make and sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it. Do you know what I am talking about?
Sabotaging our husbands.
You know the drill, your husband asks if you would like him to change the baby’s diaper but you just do it instead because it is easier then watching him struggle. Maybe you are the only one who bathes your child because you don’t think your husband does it correctly.
Dads get a bad rap for not pitching in or helping with the children, especially babies, but maybe it is because we mothers don’t ever truly let them. How did you learn to burp a baby or clean up a boo boo? You know because someone along the way taught you.
Are we helping ourselves by micromanaging every detail of what Dad does with the baby? Maybe your husband takes longer or doesn’t exactly do everything the way you do, the end result is probably the same.
A happy, fed, clean baby. Show your husband how to care for your child, ask his opinion and praise his fathering in the presence of others. Let him get experience and confidence. Then you can maybe get a break every once in awhile. Isn’t that what every mother needs anyway?
Get your husband set up and go out alone and go get a coffee and relax, your baby is in perfect, capable hands.
parenting, parenting children, dads, moms and dads
July 4th, 2008 at 10:23 am
Right you are! All people need to be a perfect parents is MUCH love and patience and a bit of practice. All that loving father needs - is a chance to spend some time with a baby without you running in circles around him, crying that he does just everything wrong:)