Parenting Children
Having twins is truly a blessing but difficult as well. Just because you had two babies at once doesn’t mean they are the same child, they are individuals and they have shown that to us since they were in the womb. My daughter was bigger, she was taking all the nutrients, and on one ultrasound I did witness her kicking her brother in the head.
L, my son was and still is smaller, more sensitive, a follower and his sister is his leader.
Parenting these children at the same time can be challenging. I was glad I found this article on parenting styles on www.aboutourkids.org.
Do you have a parenting style like authoritative or laid back and parent all your children that way, or do you change your parenting style to fit the child? Does having a different parenting style for each child cause conflict in the family, like jealousy?
These are things my husband and I struggle with when one child is a better sleeper and is very bossy and the other is very sensitive and shy.
What type of parent are you?
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July 19th, 2007 at 1:14 pm
My style is very AP and “Live and let live”.
July 19th, 2007 at 3:39 pm
I’m pretty laid back in general as far as parenting goes. I let a lot of things slide (and many of them are things I probably shouldn’t) and my kids probably eat a lot of things they shouldn’t, etc. But I know that I handle my younger daughter differently than my older. My older daughter is very sensitive and shy and she takes things very literally and gets upset easily. The little one, well, she takes after her daddy. She can be very easy going, but when she gets mad or frustrated, watch out! So, there are sometimes when I’ve had to be more firm with her. I can reason with my older daughter better (and have always been able to even when she was younger like her sister is now), but the younger one has a “my way or the highway” attitude that I can’t reason with and have to make it clear that I’m still the one in charge.