Not Alone
There is something most Moms don’t tell expectant Moms. It is something of a “dirty little secret” kept hidden away or something we don’t let ourselves admit to for fear of not being the best Mom.
It is the loneliness.
Going from a corporate environment working 40 hours a week in an building full of co-workers, peers and friends to your house where your only companion is a tiny,drooling, bald person is a leap. A huge leap.
The isolation, for me, didn’t take its toll right away, because I was so busy with this new role in my life but it did come, and I was very surprised.
I noticed how starved I was for other adults when my husband started coming home I would race to the door full of questions. How was your day? Who did you see? What did you have for lunch……..was it good?
Nobody had warned me of this, nobody talked about it until I voiced my loneliness to other Mothers. Then people would share their own experiences with it to me and they would act relieved that they were not the only one who felt this way. It was ok to feel lonely if other Mothers were as well.
I wondered why we hadn’t spoke of it before or if we would have talked about it at all if I didn’t speak first.
It is almost like that we, as Moms, should get our fullfillment as a person, solely from the baby. That is just not the truth, we are people that need adult interactment, entertainment and something to occupy our mind without it being baby related.
I say, let that load of laundry wait, go grab a friend with a kid and get some coffee.
I promise, it is a start.
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