Twins
Five days after I gave birth I was finally ready to leave the hospital. I remember sitting in the wheelchair and holding both of my babies (hospital policy)and a nice man pushed me through the maze of the hospital halls to my husband’s waiting car.
During that walk everyone stared at us, because we had not one but two babies.
Since then every time we leave the house, we get people who stare or comment on how cute they are, or how they too would like to be blessed with twins.
Then we have the “VSTQP”.
Those are the Very Stupid Twin Question People.
If you have twins you know what I am talking about.
They ask silly or personal questions to us, the parents of multiples, who do not know them from Moses.
1) Are they identical? This one is my favorite.
What I want to reply: One is a boy and one is a girl. HOW do you think they are identical? Did you take biology in high school? Do you have any understanding of the human body?
What I have been known to say: “yes”
2) Is it hard? What I want to reply: Nope, it is easy. Really easy. You should try it sometime. It is just like having a kitten.
What I do reply: “yes”
3) Are they natural? Nothing drives me more crazy then this question and every parent of a mulitple gets it. It is as if they were not conceived naturally they don’t count.
What I want to reply: No, they are artificial. How is your fertility? You know, because you casually asked about mine, I thought we were already on that level.
What I do reply: “yes”
So if you see a mother of multiples, please stay away from these questions and just say how cute they are.
To that I will also reply with a “yes”.
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January 26th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
And the people who ask these questions will never read a blog on twins to understand how annoying they can be…
January 27th, 2007 at 3:15 am
I, too, have boy-girl twins (born Jan ‘99). I can’t even begin to count how many people asked me if they were identical. Some of the people who didn’t ask if they were identical…I guess because they thought they knew…would ask, “How do you tell them apart?” I would make a show of checking in their diapers and then I’d say, “This one has the penis. This one doesn’t.”
January 27th, 2007 at 9:30 pm
Our boys are 3, and look nothing alike, but we get the identical question, too.
And for some reason people always ask what their names are. Because twin names have to rhyme or be matchy, you know.
I know it’s not a question, but you forgot the 8,000 twin stories people seem to have. My favorite is from my MIL. When I was 12 weeks along we told her and FIL that we were having twins, she proceeded to tell us that there were twins in her family that both had to be institutionalized because they were insane. Nice. Yeah, that pretty much sums up our relationship!
January 29th, 2007 at 7:59 am
I feel for you especially since I know what crazy wacky comments I got with only having one child. I can only imagine what it would be like with two or even more for that matter.
The best for me in my situation was….mind you Girlie Girlie was all dressed in pink — head to toe and a little old lady says to me in the grocery store. “Oh what a sweet little boy” I was stunned thinking who dresses their little boy in PINK but like you all I said was “Thank You”.
January 29th, 2007 at 8:36 am
Meg that is true, so many twins names match.
Mama, the same thing happened to my mother when I was a baby. She took much offense.
The fact that i was bald until I was two didn’t help matters much!
January 30th, 2007 at 4:00 am
Tell me about it!
These questions are hurled at me wherever I go with my twin boys and a question everyone asks me is :They are girls, aren’t they?
Ever since they’ve had their haircut, it’s:”They look like their dad,don’t they?
I just nod.
July 9th, 2007 at 12:49 pm
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